Everything is possible if you are positive.
The two words that have kept my marriage till now are, “No Competition and No Going Back.” A good marriage is a platform self-determination and discipline. It is called no retreat no surrender. In my view, competition is on the platform of inferiority complex and going back to single life is the jargon of babies.
The law of competition states, losers are the best enemy of the winner, and every lost event is a platform for animosity. The law of Going-Back states no one can go forward looking backward.
Competition in marriage is the gateway to divorce and Going-Back to single life is the sign of childishness. Competition creates enemy and going back speaks of one’s childishness.
You cannot win your spouse and still expect love. Expecting love from a competitor is the platform for pain and frustration. Every time you are declaring or claim you are a winner, you have successfully created a distance that cannot be bridged. In the same vein, you will always go in the direction that you are looking. Looking back will always make you go back. One thing that I know very well is that God does not lead backward, He will always lead forward.
You are your spouse and your spouse is you. Whatever your spouse possess is for you and whatever you have also belonged to your spouse.
This is the secret, competing with your spouse is simply self-hatred, and having an option in marriage is the highway to divorce. Let go of your ex and never compare your spouse with your past.
“For as the body is one and has many members, but all the members of that one body, being many, are one body, so also is Christ.” I Cor 12:12
“But Jesus said to him, “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” Luke 9:62
“And if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” Mark 3:25
Stop competing and stop comparing. Let your old relationship be the things of the past. Remember, old things have passed away. Therefore, instead of competition think completion and instead of going back think going forward.
Remember, keep loving your own spouse, that is all that you have got.
One of the secrets of life is that “No One Owns You Anything.” To get what you want, you have to let go what you have. Good news, marriage is not exempted from this golden rule. Therefore, a sample is the function of example. The Law of example states that you cannot make others do what you cannot do for yourself.
EXPECTATION BEFORE INITIATION WILL BREED UNLIMITED FRUSTRATION
Husbands don’t except respect before you show love, and wives don’t except love before you show respect.
Waiting is very good, but in marriage, it will lead to wasting. What you want is the function of what you will give.
Good and enviable marriage is possible if you are proactive.
“After these things, the Lord appointed seventy others also, and sent them two by two before His face into every city and place where He Himself was about to go (Sample).” Luke 10:1 NKJV
In other to get what you want in marriage, you have to initiate it by giving what your spouse needs. Remember whoever takes the lead, is the leader. So, take the lead, initiate the change.
Remember, keep loving your own spouse.
Good family is on a platform of team work. Among many reasons for marriage is to put an end to singleness. Therefore, keep in mind that it is possible to still be single while you are married. Husbands help your wives, and wives keep supporting your own husbands. Embrace each other’s weaknesses and substitute it for your own strengths. It is called TEAMWORK.
The only way to keep the enemies at bay is to fill in the gap for each other.
The Law of Team Work states, “working together for the same goal without competition but completion has tremendous power which will in turn bring life back to anything that is called death.”
“And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” Gen 2:25
TEAMWORK IS THE EVIDENCE FOR REAL-LOVE.
Remember, keep loving your own spouse.
Choice is the foundation of action. It strengthens decision and fuel determination. Success is breed on the platform of choice. Marriages are successful on the platform of choice. Poverties are terminated on the platform of choice. Even to live or die is a choice.
The greatest thing in life is not your success. The achievement of life is not your assets. The essential fulfillment in life is not peace. The excellence of life is Choice. When a new baby is born he either looks like is father or mother, but when he grows and die he will look like his choice. The choice is one of the most powerful forces in the world. It defines your stand and withstands your opposition. Choice fortifies and strengthens one’s life.
It is your choice to be successful; no one associated with a failure.
It is your choice to keep your marriage; it defines…
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If you don’t think about tomorrow, you are bound to regret it. Every effort shall be rewarded either positive or negative, and every move will yield a result. The future that you don’t plan for will disappoint when you get there.
Tomorrow will surely come no matter what, so always take care of today, it will surely birth tomorrow. Before you get into a relationship, think tomorrow. Before you spend that money think tomorrow. Before you lose your virginity and sell your originality for few minutes’ satisfaction, please think tomorrow. Before you utter that word think tomorrow—Words are like eggs, which can never be put together once it is broken.
If you are the type that doesn’t envision tomorrow, unfortunately, it will come, but you will live it in regret. Today is like a seed that will be sown into your tomorrow, and remember whatever a man sow the same shall he reap. The future that you will live is the product of the today that you are living.
If you want to live your tomorrow with peace and joy sow a good seed today. Tomorrow will surely come either you prepare for it or not. The good news is that you can determine what will happen with the type of life that you are living now.
This morning as you start your day and continue to live your life remember that every day is a seed. The question is what kind of seed are you sowing?
…be inspired, live abundant life and help others, because life is good.
The Secret Man
Your future is about you and your results depend on you. You are the secret of your life; you are the secret of your secret. Expectation is right, but it much better if you are expecting from yourself. You need to change the course of your life. You need to go a different direction. There is no roadblock, but there are blind people. Thinking someone will come and bring you out of the pit is great; but what if on one shows up? I believe expectation is the mother of manifestation. But living at the mercy of others is a wrong notion of life.
Stand up and be the change that you want to see. Your parent doesn’t owe you anything, neither does your government does. Your pastor is neither responsible to you nor for you. Your spouse is not your problem. You are the problem with you, thinking otherwise is naïve.
The greatest challenge for you is YOU. I call it, “YOUR OWN UNIVERSE.” What you make happen for yourself remains with you forever. Expecting help from people is the foundation for total regret. Trust in a human being is the highway to all round disappointment. Therefore, stop your relationship with Lady Procrastination, start adoring Lady Action. It is called ACTIVITY for PRODUCTIVITY. The state of making things happen. If you don’t happen, nothing will happen. If you do nothing, you will get nothing.
Your present condition is a function of your personal decision. If you change nothing, nothing will change. Every object remains at the state of rest until a force is applied. Even, the miracle is an act of God, but as provoke by men. God will not initiate change unless you are ready to see the change. Remember, heaven will only help those who will help themselves.
Therefore, break out from your regret starts a new life. Break out of your mistakes and begin a new journey to your destination. Everybody has passed, but only those who stay with their will be bypass. Learn from you wrong, decide not to repeat it and move on.
Once you are set out, there will be open doors. The reason is simple, the door of destiny is only shut against those don’t believe in themselves. You are your first customer. So, sell yourself to yourself and buy yourself from yourself. Believe, step out, continue, breakout and get your desire. Your world is ready to hear your voice and listen to your story. Remember, when there is a will; there is a way. BREAKOUT!
The Secret is this, “change is the secret out of every chain.”
…keep living, keep going and keep winning. Everything is possible if you are positive.
The Secret Man
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