In 2010, I was in the south-south region of Nigeria, looking for the map of one of the oil-producing states of the country. I have asked people who I thought would have access to the map, but all effort was aborted. I later decided to ask a motorcycle rider, which finally led me to where I found the map. The event made me came up with this verdict,  what you are looking for, is in the hands’ of people you do not want to ask or inside what you are not searching. I understood that what brought you here might not be enough to take you there. You need the help of others who are around to equip you for the new journey for a better destination. What then do you need now? Beware of self-limitation.

Self-limitation is the most dangerous deception that could enslave one’s destiny. Whoever, desire to feature in the future needs to be informed about self-limitation. Self-limitation has the capacity and capability to cage vision and frustrates one’s passion. It is also the highway to defeat; and access to failure. Self-limitation introduces emptiness and embraces weakness. It is the gateway to slow motion and confusion.

The solution to self-limitation is the boldness to step out. The courage to step out of old principle and walk on water like Apostle Peter. It is sometimes essential to unlearn and relearn. It is occasionally necessary to revisit and see life from another person’s perspective. Life is infinite. How far you can see is a function of how far you want to see. The only limitation out there is one that you places on yourself. As self-limitation quarantine, so stepping out breeds freedom.

Allow me to round up with three words that will make you step out with result and intention. Communing, Loving and Giving. Communing is the constant and intentional spiritual connection with people of like minds (Inner Circle). Communing makes you know your team (Colleagues) and creates bonding. It creates awareness about others and bridge gap. Communing helps with effective communication. Think communing think connection.

Love is a spiritual weapon that could shut down the intention of an adversary. You either have love, or your adversary will take the stage for your destiny. Good life feeds on love. Apostle Paul said in one of his major writing to the church in Corinth (1Cor 13:2-3), “If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains but does not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”

With the above scripture, I believe love is a king. Love is the investment of yourself in the now with undivided attention. Love does not only exist between a couple for reproduction or within a family for bonding; much more love display one’s inner peace and the stepping out of comfort zone to meet the need of others without reservation.

Lastly, step out with giving. Giving is the reflection of your life. It is the indication of genuine connection and the pointer of your heart. You do not give because you have, but you give because it is what makes the resources of the world flow. As breath to life, so is giving to destiny. As love helps to share inner peace, so is giving. Giving is an act of sharing with the rest of the world. It is a way to communicate your love and compassion for others. Giving defines you; giving preserves generation and legacy.

If self-limitation is a blockage, stepping out is the solution. Stepping out, therefore, is the change in old mentality by communing with people of like minds, while showing undiluted love for the team without reservation. Remember, commune without limitation, give without reservation and love without hesitation.

…be inspired, live an abundant life and help others because life is good.

The Secret Man
Rotimi Adedokun